mindset

Peace-Keeper vs. Peace-Maker

Peace-Keeper vs. Peace-Maker

Anyone else find themselves going through the day, just trying to keep the peace?

Between the kids, the co-workers, the family, and the love-her-but-she's-kinda-tricky friend...not to mention the bigger world and all the COVID disagreements and social injustice and political upheaval...well, my friend, there's a lot of unrest that could use some peace-keeping…

Control vs. Influence

Control vs. Influence

One of the truthiest truths I know is that we are all trying to get control. Control of the kids, our schedules, our bank accounts...control of the pandemic news, the political opinions, the understanding we have about what's going on in the world...control of our minds, how we're feeling, and what we're DOING, dammit…

Compare & Compete

Compare & Compete

Well, ready or not, 2022 is here!

And instead of wishing you a "happy new year" I'm just going to say: "new year!" Because really, it doesn't have to be happy. Or easy. Or peaceful. Or certain. If we've learned anything the past 2 years, we've learned to adjust our expectations of what might happen. So I'm going to just stick to the facts here: new year to you!…

Setting Goals

Setting Goals

Happy (almost) New Year! 2022...and who the hell knows what this year will hold. I think most of us stopped guessing in early 2021 when it became pretty clear life was gonna be just as life-y as it wanted to be... 🙃

And although we're certainly along for this ride (whether we like it or not) and it's obvious we don't have control over how things are gonna go *out there*, there's actually a decent amount of authority we all have in our lives when we turn our attention inside…

What Would Anxiety Say to You?

What Would Anxiety Say to You?

Have you ever talked to anxiety?

Most of the time, we're pushing against anxiety, going to battle with it, and generally hating it...you with me?

But this week on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast, I'd like to explore the idea of having a conversation with anxiety

Anxiety Is Not Personal

Anxiety Is Not Personal

I'm coming at you short-and-sweet on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast this week. Because this one doesn't require a whole lot of words and I know most of us have overanalyzed it beyond reason already.

We're talking about anxiety and how it's not personal

Asking Yourself What vs. Why

Asking Yourself What vs. Why

I've joked over the years that asking the question "why" over and over again can lead us straight into the depths of what's going on in our minds. And I'm not *really* joking (although it's a gross oversimplification of the process) because to a large extent, this is what we're doing as we're untangling the stories and belief systems that run our lives…

Wanting What You Want

Wanting What You Want

I was at the grocery store the other day with my kids and had one of those small moments that kinda changes everything, you know what I mean?

We were picking out ice cream. And we were standing there in the freezer section debating between cookie dough and plain chocolate. And all of a sudden, I realized I could get whatever. I. wanted

The One Inspired by Alanis

The One Inspired by Alanis

We're doing something fun on the podcast this week: we're doing a kind of philosophy lesson a la Alanis Morisette. I've chosen a handful of her songs and pulled out a few lines from each and I want to explore this with you this week on the podcast…

Friendship Anxiety

Friendship Anxiety

How are you doing this week? I'm doing great...and at the same time, I've been going through some friendship ick over the past year or so and in talking with my clients, I've found I'm not alone in this.

Turns out: adult friendships can be tricky. And we've been making ourselves anxious about it…

Why Are You Still Anxious, Kelly?

Why Are You Still Anxious, Kelly?

I got a GREAT listener question a week ago and I had to bring it to the podcast to talk about because I figure there are a few of you wondering the same thing. Namely: why are you still anxious, Kelly?

I mean, I get it. Here I am, an anxiety coach, helping other people navigate anxiety, and I still feel anxious.

So what gives? Why do I still feel anxious?!…